It's that time of the year again, where we shed off the old and take on the new! By the time December rolls around I spend a lot of time focusing on the next coming year and what improvements or changes I can make for myself. I'm not the best when it comes to accomplishing my set resolutions by the end of the 12 months but there have been times when I felt like I succeeded. I thought I would try something a little different this year. Instead of creating resolutions that only apply to me and are detailed toward the specifics of my life, I thought I'd come up with some resolutions that we all can try out together, and hopefully they will carry on to the years after that. I know I'm a little behind on this post so...sorry!
Here they are...
1. Forgive and move on. Was your heart bruised and torn by someone in the past? Have you spent sleepless nights re-winding and playing the painful scene repeatedly in your mind? One of the most difficult experiences you'll endure some time in your life is the un-tangling of a knotted mess. Life moves on quickly and it doesn't stop for anyone, so don't spend a major duration of your life bitterly holding onto that rotting grudge. We're all imperfect human beings living in an imperfect world, there will be times when we make the right decision and then some terrible ones, so release the mistake that was wrongly brought upon you by that person and make the right decision to forgive. You'll quickly realize how much more full and colorful life is without that ugly memory.
2. Take it easayy.. (Nacho Libre's voice). It's a known fact that we are our own worst critics, whether you were grown up that way or just recently started to lay the hammer on yourself. Stop. Close your eyes, and take in a deep breath...and release...feel a little better? It's easy to be consumed by the demands of today, tomorrow, and next week. The world starts to shrink and soon you become trapped by the expectations from your family, friends, work, or school. It's extremely exhausting to go through the days scrutinizing every minuscule detail that's being negatively reflected in your life. Instead take a step back and see the beauty of the bigger picture. Life is meant to be thoroughly enjoyed, no one's putting you under a microscope and inspecting every inch of a decision you make. Don't be afraid to make mistakes, they always allow us to learn, grow, and be stretched to new heights.
3. Stop people pleasin'. Some of us walk through life by trying to play it safe and by never being at fault. You agree to the opinions of other people and quickly pipe yes to any of their questions or favors. You'll soon come to realize that you're setting yourself up for a trap, you'll be deeply wounded by those who you thought were your "friends," and may be taken advantage of. I know that some of you are genuinely generous with your time, money, and heart but you also have to discern what motivation you're doing these acts out of. If it's not out of love, it's out of fear.
4. Value your relationships. We often measure our lives by the strength of our financial status, or by the hefty collection of the latest gadgets in technology. We synonymously define these materialistic items to the word "success," and while we busy ourselves by running after these goals, we forget that the most valuable creations in our lives are the people we love. I believe that life becomes more rich not by how much money is accumulating in our bank accounts but by the depth of our relationships. It's the precious people in our lives that add flavor, excitement, and joy in even the most difficult circumstances.
5. Love who you are. You were made with a purpose, and you're unique in little and big ways. Don't fall into the temptation of comparing yourself to someone else, they have their shortcomings too. I personally have to remind myself every day that my life was given to me as a gift and I'm not showing any appreciation by constantly picking at every flaw I see in myself. I've learned that we first must embrace and love ourselves for who we are so that we can do the same for others.
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Once again, I know this is a super late post, but if you haven't seen my
New Year's Eve Makeup Tutorial on my Youtube channel yet, check it out, and let me know what you think! You could always save this look for the eve of 2013 haha. :)
I hope everyone's having a wonderful start to 2012, I'm excited for all the new adventures and memories this year will create!
-YK